Friendships you need to leave
You may have toxic people in your life and not even realize it. These people are constantly bringing you down and surround you in negativity. These are people you need to cut out of your life in order to move forward in a positive manner. It is crucial that you determine if your friendship with someone is toxic and if so, you need to end that relationship sooner than later.
Is there someone in your life who is just always negative and making you feel bad? You may not realize how much they are bringing you down. I believe everyone knows or knew someone like this. I have definitely had people in my life who continually made me feel bad and they brought a negative energy to my life. This doesn't necessarily mean they are a bad person, just a bad person to be in your life.
First things first, how to identify if someone is toxic. This doesn't mean someone who complains or who is just unpleasant in general. That's just someone you don't like. A toxic person tries to control you. They feel as if they aren't in control of their own lives so they try to control your's through manipulation. A toxic person will take and not give. Sometimes we need to lean on our friends for certain things and that is normal. However a toxic friend will not be willing to give, they are not concerned about your needs. A toxic friend will not respect your boundaries. We all have particular things we are not okay with or that makes us uncomfortable however this friend in your life will not care about them and behave in a manner that they want. Clearly this is not a good behaviour of a friend as a good friend would respect your limits and not push them. A toxic person will always play the victim and never admit when they are wrong. We all make mistakes, it's a part of growing and becoming closer with someone, it's okay to make mistakes. Nonetheless, this friend will never admit to their faults and always put all the blame on you. This can be exhausting.
Having toxic people in your life only brings you down and takes so much of your energy, this is why you need to move on and find the people who will respect you and be there for you. Here are some things to keep in mind when trying to distance yourself from this person who is bringing you down.
Cutting out the people in your life who bring you down can be very difficult, no matter how awful they may have treated you. The biggest thing you have to keep in mind is that you don't necessarily owe them a huge explanation. It would be hard to explain that they are just a toxic person in your life and you can't deal with it anymore because you deserve better. Just be honest and share your true feelings of why you feel that this friendship can't go on any longer. Be sure to not argue or get in a fight. The moment you or your friend start to raise your voice, this is when logic and reason go out the window. Stay calm and simply restate your boundaries and what is or is not acceptable to you. If you feel like you just need a break from seeing or speaking to that person for a little bit, that's okay too. Just be sure to clearly state these things to your friend. I don't consider it to be selfish to put yourself first when you've had enough of someone constantly bringing you down, so don't feel bad about doing something like this.
It is never easy telling someone how you truly feel. Despite this, it's not okay to let someone be a negative influence in your life to the point where it could be effecting your mental health. Make sure you establish who is a toxic friend if you do have someone like that in your life and use these tips to move forward so that both people involved can move forward to healthy and happy relationships.